Has Texting Ruined Relationships?

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I’ve never dated in a textless world. I may always be curious as to how those good ol’ times were. Waiting by the phone for a phone call?! How sweet that must have been. Not having to interpret the tone and subtext of a text? Even sweeter! Fortunately, the guys I’ve been into the past couple of years have been pretty great picking up the phone or hitting the FaceTime button and actually verbally communicating. I pick good ones…as most of you know. However, I have a lot of friends that only text their BAE when they’re apart. They can go long spans of time without hearing each other’s voices.

Some studies suggest that a whooping 93 percent of communication is nonverbal. According to the Mehrabian theory, the actual words used in a message make up only 7 percent how to it is conveyed to the receiver. The rest of how the message is interpreted is based on vocal tone and the facial and body language exerted. With text messaging, we’re misinterpreting, over analyzing, stressing about response times, and worrying about how to respond perfectly. A decade ago (my freshman year of college), all of this was practically non-existent.

I believe millennials aren’t experienced or comfortable enough with intimate conversation and communication the way previous generations have been. We’ve had the option to hide behind screens and not expose ourselves. Being vulnerable is scary and technology has given us the choice to conceal and bury our feelings as much as we’d like. Heck, we can even pretend other people’s emotions don’t exist. Do we really this to be acceptable in our world? If you don’t, join me in the #EmotionalRevolution.

Watch my friend Blaise Beyhan of the band Miss You further discuss how disappointing some of our modern communication norms are below.

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  • Megan
    September 27, 2016

    I was just talking about this exact same thing today, I COMPLETELY agree with you so much! I hate that all of thise social media has taken the place of real life and expressing emotions. Just like you said, cell phones and social media has enabled people to not care about how others feel, it’s so sad. Our society just continues to become more and more distant from “real” life. Another thing that sincerely bothers me is how NOTHING is sacred anymore. For example people go into marriage with a plan B (divorce) and with marriage you shouldn’t have a plan B. It weighs on my heart that marriage and so many other things aren’t sacred and respected….I could go on and on about this lol but I enjoy your blog and have always thought highly of you as a person. You are genuine and that’s why I’ve stuck with you since the beginning, You have always stayed true to yourself and that is to be respected. xo

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    • ashleyiaconetti
      October 27, 2016 Megan

      Thank you so much for this response, Megan. This means a lot! I’m right there with you!

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